Tuesday, June 2, 2009

Cheating

Cheating is 1 of the biggest issues in relationships and marriages 2day…..Almost everyone in a relationship has done something previously that can be considered cheating (Either before or during the relationship they are currently in) …..That’s something crazy to think about…..It is almost impossible to have a successful relationship if both people aren’t being faithful…..It is getting even worst now that females feel they need to catch up w/ what males have been doing for years now…..For a while cheating was something that was kept hidden now its out in the open…..For many years only males have been associated with cheating…..Now Females do the same amount of cheating or even more

Cheating is never good but reality is IT IS done…..Cheating happens mainly bcuz there is something lacking in the relationship either physically or mentally that is very important to the person…..Some people come up with excuses why they did in-fact cheat but its best for them to be honest with the person…..Lack of communication is the biggest reason for a person to cheat…..If your not able to talk about things in your relationship nothing is going to get fixed and the person will seek things else where

It is very common for many males and females to say they cannot deal with cheating in a relationship…..that is very normal…..Things have changed and reality is that people cheat and move forward after it…..People have their own views and consider certain things cheating that others may not…..If cheating does occur in your relationship it may not be the end of the world…..Sometimes a event like that can change a relationship for the better…..That’s only a headache that can be avoided by NOT cheating…..Of course your going to expect the person to forgive you so its only right you do the same with them……This is something that goes both ways

Reasons People Cheat: 1. Revenge- Which is never a good reason but its most common
2. Being Bored With The Person- You are bored with the person and you need change and something that keeps you excited for the time being.
3. Jus To Do It- The thrill of cheating and saying you did it (Which may be the worst reason)
4. Because You Deal With It- Its obvious someone will keep doing it until they are ready to settle down if it is allowed.
5. Feeling Mistreated- If you feel you are not getting enough out of the relation or deserve better you go out and seek some1 else…..It is VERY!!! Common that you aren’t satisfied with that treatment for a long time

Things To Watch Out For: 1. Less Communication
2. Mutual friends who tend to act weird when you are around
3. Getting Defensive About Certain Topics Or People (Brought Up)
4. Change In Frequency Of Sex
5. Change In Behavior


Advice: (FEMALES) When your bf or “friend” tries to talk to about something don’t brush him off…..It is VERY important that you hear him out…..You rather fulfilling his needs or solving his problem(s) then him going out to find some1 else to do it……Ladies need 2 understand many things when it comes to cheating…..It takes 2 For everything...When You find a good dude hold on to him...Don’t do things that will contribute to or help him make the decision 2 cheat....Its not all his fault…..Its obvious that you did something 2 make him feel that way….(EXCELLENT POINT) There are MANY!! more females out there...more than u think...there's NOT that many good dudes out there...So why not keep the 1 you have…..Think about it

(Dudes) You cannot stop cheating from happening…..A female can hide it and it’s a risk you take when you are in a relationship…..If you feel you want to go out and have sex with more than 1 girl do that don’t try to do both…..Your jus creating more problems for yourself….. Tyler Perry made the people who watch his movies aware of the “80 20 Rule” It makes perfect sense…..For all u males (females 2) who downgrade when you cheat you need 2 get your mind right…it doesn’t make sense….think about it

Opinion: I feel cheating is the most over rated thing out right now……Everyone wants to do it for all the wrong reasons……I feel it doesn’t make sense to cheat on the person your are in a relationship…..If you really liked the person you was cheating with, you would be in a relationship with them not jus using them…..If you are trying to sock it to the other person why not jus leave them instead of cheating on them…..It will hurt them even more in the long run…..Females need to know it is not cute to have 2 many sexual partners…..So all the cheating should be kept to a minimum…..It only makes you look worst when you are in a relationship and you have another dude on the side….You may think your doing it now but it will catch up to you in the long run…..No Man wants to marry someone with that kind of experience



For all you females out there that are in denial about the situation and love being influenced by music especially from Keyshia Cole or Jazzmin Sullivan for example you can listen to a song from the males point of view…..t will help you understand things more.....Trey Songz “Cheated” from his 1st album if im not mistaken will do the job…Google it on You Tube it and u will find it

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