Friday, July 10, 2009

The Importance Of Birthdays

Sorry For The Delay.....Had To Take A Break, And Go Spend Some Time In The Lab Cooking Up Something New…..Finding Topics Was Easier Than I Thought.....So I Wont Be Taking Another Break For About 6 Weeks.....Any Who Im Gonna Get To The Point Now

I Feel A Little Selfish Doing A Blog On The Importance Of Birthdays, Since Ill Be Turning 21 In A Couple Hours…..But The More I Thought About It, The More I Was Convinced About The Importance Of Them….A Birthdays Is Very Important To The Person Especially…..It Should Be Almost As Important To The Other Person As Well When Your In A Relationship

Gifts Are Always A Plus On A Birthday…..Most People Look Forward To That More Than Anything….Buying A Gift Isn’t Always Easy On A Person Especially If They Don’t Pay Attention To Things Their Partner Likes Or Talks About…..Just Going Through The Motions Is A Waste Of Time Since It Will Be Like You Didn’t Get Anything .…That Shows How Much You Really Do Care…..When Buying A Gift Its Always Important To Put Fourth Some Effort

There’s Nothing Wrong With Unwrapping Gifts On Ur Birthday…..To Be Honest That’s 1 Of The Best Parts…..There’s 1 Gift That Every Male(Along With A Good Portion Of Females Out There) Wants To Unwrap On His(Or Her) Birthday And That’s His(Or Her) Partner…..As You Get Older You Start To Get Less And Less Gifts From Family Members So You Look Forward To A Good Time With Your Partner…..Females If Your Bf Had A Long Face On His Birthday Because You Didn’t Let Him Unwrap You…You Now Know 1 BIG!!! Reason Why…..And Males If Your Gf Or Lady Friend Decided To Go To The Strip Club With Her Friends Or Out In General Instead Of Hanging Out With You On Her Birthday…You Now Know Why

If You Feel You Cant Celebrate The Way You Want To With Your Partner Don’t Sit Home And Be Miserable Go Out And Enjoy Yourself….Your Birthday Only Comes Around Once A Year So You Don’t Wanna Miss Out….Im Not Saying Go Out And Cheat And Have Something New For Your Bay All Im Saying Is Enjoy Yourself……If Your Other Half Has A Problem With You Going Out To The Bar Or Even The Strip Club To Celebrate HE or SHE Is Being Selfish And Needs To Make It A Priority To Make Sure You Enjoy Yourself On Your Day…..And If You Feel Lonely That’s Where Your Friends Come In To Play…..If Everyone Is On The Same Page Everyone Will Be Happy At The End Of The Night

Advice
Its Very Simple…..Make Sure You Help Make Your Partners Day Be A Good 1…..Sex Is Always A Nice Gift…..You Can Even Make The Day More Special By Doing Something Really Special (Something That You Don’t Usually Do, Don’t Be Afraid To Use Your Imagination….Surprises Are Always nice) You Will Get It All Back In Return Whenever Your Birthday Comes Around

Jeremih Started The Trend And Everyone Else Followed…..Fabolous, Pretty Ricky And Brooke Hogan Just To Name A Few Made It There Business To Remix The Song…..Hopefully At The End Of The Night You Can Make Your Own Version And Relate It To How You Spent Your Night

Always Keep In Mind A Relationship Is Based On Give And Take…..Whatever Treatment You Give Out On The Other Persons Birthday You Will Get In Return…..This Can Either Be A Good Or Bad Thing Depending On How You Handle The Situation…..So Brushing Off Your Partners Birthday Is A Bad Idea Especially If Your Birthday Is After Or Even Close…..People Don’t Forget About Something Like This.....If You Forget Someone’s Birthday They Have A Problem…..Its The Same Thing If You Mess It Up

Thursday, June 11, 2009

Relationships are very complicated and it only becomes worst when there are extra things added…..Some people are guilty of letting other things have a negative affect on their relationship…..Some let friends play a role…..Some let family play a role……Others let the media play a role in their relationship…..The media can be anything from articles online or in magazines to the music we all listen to

Females in the media are usually more guilty than males in the media when it comes to straying people away from the opposite sex…..There are many women in the media that have had “bad luck” if you wanna call it that with males and try to convince all other females in the world that “Men are NO good”…..This is the worst type of advice these females that are also role models to some give out…..That advice only poisons their minds and it holds them back…..Keyshia Cole is a PERFECT example and she is guilty of doing this…..For most of her career she had had songs that have been something negative towards males…..It has varied from leaving them to playing them to acting like females don’t need a man in their life…..She has many fans out there that try to be jus like her…..Im not knocking her bcuz she is VERY talented and has been successful thus far…..BUT what she is doing is WRONG!!!!!.....There are many females out there that act like Ms. Cole (Notice she’s NOT married) in their personal relationships and affect them in a negative way.

There are also Males in the media that tend to try to stray males away from women and only use them pretty much…..This is the wrong advice to give out to younger males especially since they are easily influence by the ones they look up to…..Some males that are influenced at a young age or get the wrong message carry this with them and then wonder why they don’t have a female in their life…..The Males tend to get the wrong message from these authors or rappers…..Most males in the media who tend to speak negative about females do in fact have a wife or “main squeeze” that they go home 2 every night or when they can….Lil Wayne always talks about Money Over Bitches but he still has relations with females, such as Lauren London…..Jim Jones is also guilty of talking bout M.O.B and he has Chrissy who is always by his side and holds him down.


Advice:

Females: Its never good to be influenced by anyone or thing, especially when it comes to your relationship…..Keyshia Cole is a millionaire and can have almost any man in this world but she chooses not 2…..Your not her and you cant have the things she does instead of a man…..If you have the mindset or try to be like her you will end up single like a dollar bill just like her


Males: At a certain age it’s a must that you have swallowed your pride…..Kill all that M.O.B(Money Over Bit***) talk and Fuck Bitches in general…..Don’t get me wrong money makes the world go round…..But it is also the root of all evil…..which means it doesn’t always bring happiness…… As The Dream would say “Money CANT!!! Match love” and “When love is your problem, Nothing can solve it, When love is your problem, Money CANT solve it”….Every great man has a even greater women by his side…..Remember that

Tuesday, June 2, 2009

Cheating

Cheating is 1 of the biggest issues in relationships and marriages 2day…..Almost everyone in a relationship has done something previously that can be considered cheating (Either before or during the relationship they are currently in) …..That’s something crazy to think about…..It is almost impossible to have a successful relationship if both people aren’t being faithful…..It is getting even worst now that females feel they need to catch up w/ what males have been doing for years now…..For a while cheating was something that was kept hidden now its out in the open…..For many years only males have been associated with cheating…..Now Females do the same amount of cheating or even more

Cheating is never good but reality is IT IS done…..Cheating happens mainly bcuz there is something lacking in the relationship either physically or mentally that is very important to the person…..Some people come up with excuses why they did in-fact cheat but its best for them to be honest with the person…..Lack of communication is the biggest reason for a person to cheat…..If your not able to talk about things in your relationship nothing is going to get fixed and the person will seek things else where

It is very common for many males and females to say they cannot deal with cheating in a relationship…..that is very normal…..Things have changed and reality is that people cheat and move forward after it…..People have their own views and consider certain things cheating that others may not…..If cheating does occur in your relationship it may not be the end of the world…..Sometimes a event like that can change a relationship for the better…..That’s only a headache that can be avoided by NOT cheating…..Of course your going to expect the person to forgive you so its only right you do the same with them……This is something that goes both ways

Reasons People Cheat: 1. Revenge- Which is never a good reason but its most common
2. Being Bored With The Person- You are bored with the person and you need change and something that keeps you excited for the time being.
3. Jus To Do It- The thrill of cheating and saying you did it (Which may be the worst reason)
4. Because You Deal With It- Its obvious someone will keep doing it until they are ready to settle down if it is allowed.
5. Feeling Mistreated- If you feel you are not getting enough out of the relation or deserve better you go out and seek some1 else…..It is VERY!!! Common that you aren’t satisfied with that treatment for a long time

Things To Watch Out For: 1. Less Communication
2. Mutual friends who tend to act weird when you are around
3. Getting Defensive About Certain Topics Or People (Brought Up)
4. Change In Frequency Of Sex
5. Change In Behavior


Advice: (FEMALES) When your bf or “friend” tries to talk to about something don’t brush him off…..It is VERY important that you hear him out…..You rather fulfilling his needs or solving his problem(s) then him going out to find some1 else to do it……Ladies need 2 understand many things when it comes to cheating…..It takes 2 For everything...When You find a good dude hold on to him...Don’t do things that will contribute to or help him make the decision 2 cheat....Its not all his fault…..Its obvious that you did something 2 make him feel that way….(EXCELLENT POINT) There are MANY!! more females out there...more than u think...there's NOT that many good dudes out there...So why not keep the 1 you have…..Think about it

(Dudes) You cannot stop cheating from happening…..A female can hide it and it’s a risk you take when you are in a relationship…..If you feel you want to go out and have sex with more than 1 girl do that don’t try to do both…..Your jus creating more problems for yourself….. Tyler Perry made the people who watch his movies aware of the “80 20 Rule” It makes perfect sense…..For all u males (females 2) who downgrade when you cheat you need 2 get your mind right…it doesn’t make sense….think about it

Opinion: I feel cheating is the most over rated thing out right now……Everyone wants to do it for all the wrong reasons……I feel it doesn’t make sense to cheat on the person your are in a relationship…..If you really liked the person you was cheating with, you would be in a relationship with them not jus using them…..If you are trying to sock it to the other person why not jus leave them instead of cheating on them…..It will hurt them even more in the long run…..Females need to know it is not cute to have 2 many sexual partners…..So all the cheating should be kept to a minimum…..It only makes you look worst when you are in a relationship and you have another dude on the side….You may think your doing it now but it will catch up to you in the long run…..No Man wants to marry someone with that kind of experience



For all you females out there that are in denial about the situation and love being influenced by music especially from Keyshia Cole or Jazzmin Sullivan for example you can listen to a song from the males point of view…..t will help you understand things more.....Trey Songz “Cheated” from his 1st album if im not mistaken will do the job…Google it on You Tube it and u will find it

Tuesday, May 26, 2009

Friends Of The Opposite Sex.....Good or Bad?????

Now a days many people claim to have a best friend of the opposite sex…..There is nothing wrong w/ this unless you are in elementary or middle school…..After a while there’s more 2 it than jus being bff’s…..As you get older things change and all that bff talk should go out the window.....Females are more likely to have a bff of the opposite sex than a male…..Females have a tougher time w/ this since they are usually in denial or blind to the situation (Common Phrase: “I don’t look at him like that”…..That has NOTHING 2 do w/ how he looks at you)…..Friends of the opposite sex can create problems in a relationship…..Males get the short end of the stick w/ this since they have to wait like a sitting duck until the female finally decides to listen to reason and open her eyes

Females for the most part don’t think this should be an issue but they don’t see the problems that they help create….A lot of the time they have an excuse 4 everything you say regarding their bff…..Excuses can vary from “I don’t like hanging out w/ females bcuz females are ………..” (NON SENSE) to “ Its not what you think” (NON SENSE!!!!) …..Having a friend of the opposite sex who doesn’t stay in their place can make anyone wonder what really is going on…..Its a good chance that the male that claims to be your bff wants 1 thing and 1 thing only and its not friendship, its what sits between your thighs…..Once the other person in the relationship becomes aware of the “friendship” its just going to create more conflict…..A lot of things will start 2 seem skeptical…..Jealousy plays a big role in this but its only because the other person in the relationships does things to make that person feel that way.


My Opinion: There’s nothing wrong w/ having friends of the opposite sex…..Like everything else there are limits and boundaries a friend needs to be aware of…..The problem starts when the female or male in the relationship let that person over step their boundaries…..Males usually want one thing out the deal and the female in the relationship should be aware of it……Relationships are not for children so if you have to make a choice since you CANT do both


Advice: I know this can be a VERY annoying stage a couple goes through but there’s something good than can come out of it…..There’s a lot of growth and maturity that comes w/ the person opening their eyes to the situation……The best thing to do is be patient with the person…..All the arguing in the world will do nothing until they notice how bad it really looks…..Ur fighting a losing battle trying to change them so don’t waste your time…..Eventually something will come out and u can use it as an example EVERY!!! Single time to prove your point…..Eventually they will understand……..FEMALES!!! Learn how to separate the 2 and you won’t have a pblm….. You should also listen to your bf w/ this since he has more knowledge of the situation since he’s a male and will have a better idea how a male would think or act……Males are guilty of this sometimes…..Females who see that in their bf’s can do the same and try to think like the female and take it from there

Tuesday, May 19, 2009

Relationships And Love

Relationships

Its not easy to have a successful relationship....Divorce rate is high as a light bill and the number of unsuccessful relationships is also high.....Growing up you have no idea what a relationship really is.....You can only base things on what you see at home and the relationships you see on tv.....Parents actually contribute to your love growing up.....This can either be a good or a bad thing depending how you handle it.....(Example) Cheating is something that can be passed down....It is very important to know right from wrong so you know wat to watch out for as you get older so u dnt mess up ur relationship

Things 2 Do In Order 2 Have A Succesful Relationship Or Keep a Girl In General:
1.Communication-Communication is very important.....W/O some type of communication you will always have pblms or issues somewhere.....Good communication helps you avoid those pblms.
2.Sex- We all know how important sex is to a relationship
3.Keeping The Excitement In The Relationship- This is very important so you dnt get bored w/ the person.....Sometimes its enough to jus take it easy at home but its important you go out and do different things.....It makes a difference
4.Respect- It Is very important to respect the other persons views on things.....If you dont thats jus gonna create conflict.
5.Honesty-A gf or female in general loves some1 that is honest w/ them.....I think it turns them on lOl....If everything is on the table than its hard to run into any pblms
6.Not Being Selfish- Everything has to be 50/50 in a relationship.....Its good to be open minded.....This is something that has 2 go both ways.....Watching a mushy movie wont kill you males out there AND watching sportscenter should not kill you females either..everything has 2 be give or take
7.Time 2gether- Its quality not quanity that really matters.....Time spent together will help you grow closer to each other
8.Trust- You have to be able to trust the other person. w/o trust there will b 0 progress
9. Challenging Each Other- This is very essential in a relationship and important in general.....You can introduce the person to something new which will b something good to build on.....This can help you learn to see things from another perspective
10. Sex Again lOl- Its self explanitory

4 Horseman To End a Relationship
1.Criticism
2.Defensiveness
3.Contempt
4.Withdrawl



How Males View Love

This is something that will happen to a male sooner or later.....Females remember: What you do is very important to the males decesion to set you apart from any other female out there.....This can be something small and seemingly not important at all that makes the male fall for you.....Basically you have changed how he looks at you....This wat you want...Now he will look at you as "your the one for me" not "Shes cool"


3 Stages Of Love

1.Lust
2.Infatuation
3.Attachment

Tuesday, May 12, 2009

Sex

Sex Is One Of The Most Important Ingredients In A Successful Relationship.....Sex Is A Bond 2 Ppl Share That Brings You Closer Together And It Should Be Done On A Regular Basis(In A Relationship).....It Is Very Important That Both Ppl Agree Are On The Same Page Especially With How Frequently It Happens.....Sex Makes Up 20% Of A Relationship If Its Good And 80% If Its Bad....Dont Be Fooled By That 20%.....It Makes Up A BIG Part Of The Relationship.....The 80% Speaks 4 Itself And If It Is Present In Your Relationship Theres A Good Chance Your Relationship Isnt Working

Hormones Are a Crazy Thing That Both Males And Females Have To Deal With.....Sometimes Hormones Can Cause Arguments And Create Problems.....Sex Is A Good And Enjoyable Way To Avoid These Pblms.....Sex Can Even Get Rid Of Most Of Your Pblms In General..... "Sex Everyday Keeps The Pblms Away" lOl

Things NOT!!!!! To Do: "Not Tonight" Is Something That No Man Wants To Hear And It Should NEVER Come Out.....Bein In A Relationship You Have Certain Obligations.....You Are Suppose To Be There For The Other Person Mentally And Physically.....If The Female Is Horny It Is The Males Obligation To Solve Her Pblm...This Goes Both Ways.....Soooooo This Means If The Male Is Horny The Female Is Obligated To Help Him With His Pblm


A Plus: It Is Always A Good Thing To Bring New Things To The Table.....Your Sex Life Should Be Very Important To The Both Of You And You Should Take It Seriously.....You Can Use Your Imagination 4 This And I Bet You Will Like The Results...Being Scared Or Shy Or Even Nervous 2 Try New Things Should Never Be An Issue..It Is A Plus To Have Sex In Weird Places Since It Enhances The Experience.....Example: Oral Sex.....Some Ppl Male And Female Are Scared To Try It.....Adding This To Your Sex Life Will Enhance It And Make The Experience Even Better.....This Is Also Something That SHould Go Both Ways


Key Facts: Females Hormones Are The Highest After They Get Off Of Their Periods(The 1st 2nd And 3rd Days Mainly).....Males Keep That In Mind.....So If You Ask Your Gf Or Whatever The Case May Be If She Is Horny And You Get A "No" Response You Now Know She Is Lying 2 You............................................................................................Foods To Help Enhance An Orgasm: Vanilla Ice Cream: Ice Cream Has High Levels Of Calcium And Phosphorus, 2 Minerals That Build Your Muscles.....The Calcium From The Ice Cream Helps The Muscles That Control Ejaculation and Orgasm(Spasm And Contractions)..........Dark Chocolate: The Cocoa In Chocolate Contains Methylxanthines, Stimulants That Increase Your Body's Sensitivity.....Women Who Often Eat Chocolate Have A Higher SexDrive Than Those Who Dont..........6 Ounce Sirloin Steak: The Protein In The Steak Boosts Levels Of Dopamine And Norepinephrine, 2 Chemicals In The Brain That Heighten The Sensitivity During Sex(Sex Is Known 2 Start In The Kitchen.....Home Cooked Meals Are Better Than Eating Out)