Friends Of The Opposite Sex.....Good or Bad?????

Now a days many people claim to have a best friend of the opposite sex…..There is nothing wrong w/ this unless you are in elementary or middle school…..After a while there’s more 2 it than jus being bff’s…..As you get older things change and all that bff talk should go out the window.....Females are more likely to have a bff of the opposite sex than a male…..Females have a tougher time w/ this since they are usually in denial or blind to the situation (Common Phrase: “I don’t look at him like that”…..That has NOTHING 2 do w/ how he looks at you)…..Friends of the opposite sex can create problems in a relationship…..Males get the short end of the stick w/ this since they have to wait like a sitting duck until the female finally decides to listen to reason and open her eyes

Females for the most part don’t think this should be an issue but they don’t see the problems that they help create….A lot of the time they have an excuse 4 everything you say regarding their bff…..Excuses can vary from “I don’t like hanging out w/ females bcuz females are ………..” (NON SENSE) to “ Its not what you think” (NON SENSE!!!!) …..Having a friend of the opposite sex who doesn’t stay in their place can make anyone wonder what really is going on…..Its a good chance that the male that claims to be your bff wants 1 thing and 1 thing only and its not friendship, its what sits between your thighs…..Once the other person in the relationship becomes aware of the “friendship” its just going to create more conflict…..A lot of things will start 2 seem skeptical…..Jealousy plays a big role in this but its only because the other person in the relationships does things to make that person feel that way.


My Opinion: There’s nothing wrong w/ having friends of the opposite sex…..Like everything else there are limits and boundaries a friend needs to be aware of…..The problem starts when the female or male in the relationship let that person over step their boundaries…..Males usually want one thing out the deal and the female in the relationship should be aware of it……Relationships are not for children so if you have to make a choice since you CANT do both


Advice: I know this can be a VERY annoying stage a couple goes through but there’s something good than can come out of it…..There’s a lot of growth and maturity that comes w/ the person opening their eyes to the situation……The best thing to do is be patient with the person…..All the arguing in the world will do nothing until they notice how bad it really looks…..Ur fighting a losing battle trying to change them so don’t waste your time…..Eventually something will come out and u can use it as an example EVERY!!! Single time to prove your point…..Eventually they will understand……..FEMALES!!! Learn how to separate the 2 and you won’t have a pblm….. You should also listen to your bf w/ this since he has more knowledge of the situation since he’s a male and will have a better idea how a male would think or act……Males are guilty of this sometimes…..Females who see that in their bf’s can do the same and try to think like the female and take it from there

Relationships And Love

Relationships

Its not easy to have a successful relationship....Divorce rate is high as a light bill and the number of unsuccessful relationships is also high.....Growing up you have no idea what a relationship really is.....You can only base things on what you see at home and the relationships you see on tv.....Parents actually contribute to your love growing up.....This can either be a good or a bad thing depending how you handle it.....(Example) Cheating is something that can be passed down....It is very important to know right from wrong so you know wat to watch out for as you get older so u dnt mess up ur relationship

Things 2 Do In Order 2 Have A Succesful Relationship Or Keep a Girl In General:
1.Communication-Communication is very important.....W/O some type of communication you will always have pblms or issues somewhere.....Good communication helps you avoid those pblms.
2.Sex- We all know how important sex is to a relationship
3.Keeping The Excitement In The Relationship- This is very important so you dnt get bored w/ the person.....Sometimes its enough to jus take it easy at home but its important you go out and do different things.....It makes a difference
4.Respect- It Is very important to respect the other persons views on things.....If you dont thats jus gonna create conflict.
5.Honesty-A gf or female in general loves some1 that is honest w/ them.....I think it turns them on lOl....If everything is on the table than its hard to run into any pblms
6.Not Being Selfish- Everything has to be 50/50 in a relationship.....Its good to be open minded.....This is something that has 2 go both ways.....Watching a mushy movie wont kill you males out there AND watching sportscenter should not kill you females either..everything has 2 be give or take
7.Time 2gether- Its quality not quanity that really matters.....Time spent together will help you grow closer to each other
8.Trust- You have to be able to trust the other person. w/o trust there will b 0 progress
9. Challenging Each Other- This is very essential in a relationship and important in general.....You can introduce the person to something new which will b something good to build on.....This can help you learn to see things from another perspective
10. Sex Again lOl- Its self explanitory

4 Horseman To End a Relationship
1.Criticism
2.Defensiveness
3.Contempt
4.Withdrawl



How Males View Love

This is something that will happen to a male sooner or later.....Females remember: What you do is very important to the males decesion to set you apart from any other female out there.....This can be something small and seemingly not important at all that makes the male fall for you.....Basically you have changed how he looks at you....This wat you want...Now he will look at you as "your the one for me" not "Shes cool"


3 Stages Of Love

1.Lust
2.Infatuation
3.Attachment

Sex

Sex Is One Of The Most Important Ingredients In A Successful Relationship.....Sex Is A Bond 2 Ppl Share That Brings You Closer Together And It Should Be Done On A Regular Basis(In A Relationship).....It Is Very Important That Both Ppl Agree Are On The Same Page Especially With How Frequently It Happens.....Sex Makes Up 20% Of A Relationship If Its Good And 80% If Its Bad....Dont Be Fooled By That 20%.....It Makes Up A BIG Part Of The Relationship.....The 80% Speaks 4 Itself And If It Is Present In Your Relationship Theres A Good Chance Your Relationship Isnt Working

Hormones Are a Crazy Thing That Both Males And Females Have To Deal With.....Sometimes Hormones Can Cause Arguments And Create Problems.....Sex Is A Good And Enjoyable Way To Avoid These Pblms.....Sex Can Even Get Rid Of Most Of Your Pblms In General..... "Sex Everyday Keeps The Pblms Away" lOl

Things NOT!!!!! To Do: "Not Tonight" Is Something That No Man Wants To Hear And It Should NEVER Come Out.....Bein In A Relationship You Have Certain Obligations.....You Are Suppose To Be There For The Other Person Mentally And Physically.....If The Female Is Horny It Is The Males Obligation To Solve Her Pblm...This Goes Both Ways.....Soooooo This Means If The Male Is Horny The Female Is Obligated To Help Him With His Pblm


A Plus: It Is Always A Good Thing To Bring New Things To The Table.....Your Sex Life Should Be Very Important To The Both Of You And You Should Take It Seriously.....You Can Use Your Imagination 4 This And I Bet You Will Like The Results...Being Scared Or Shy Or Even Nervous 2 Try New Things Should Never Be An Issue..It Is A Plus To Have Sex In Weird Places Since It Enhances The Experience.....Example: Oral Sex.....Some Ppl Male And Female Are Scared To Try It.....Adding This To Your Sex Life Will Enhance It And Make The Experience Even Better.....This Is Also Something That SHould Go Both Ways


Key Facts: Females Hormones Are The Highest After They Get Off Of Their Periods(The 1st 2nd And 3rd Days Mainly).....Males Keep That In Mind.....So If You Ask Your Gf Or Whatever The Case May Be If She Is Horny And You Get A "No" Response You Now Know She Is Lying 2 You............................................................................................Foods To Help Enhance An Orgasm: Vanilla Ice Cream: Ice Cream Has High Levels Of Calcium And Phosphorus, 2 Minerals That Build Your Muscles.....The Calcium From The Ice Cream Helps The Muscles That Control Ejaculation and Orgasm(Spasm And Contractions)..........Dark Chocolate: The Cocoa In Chocolate Contains Methylxanthines, Stimulants That Increase Your Body's Sensitivity.....Women Who Often Eat Chocolate Have A Higher SexDrive Than Those Who Dont..........6 Ounce Sirloin Steak: The Protein In The Steak Boosts Levels Of Dopamine And Norepinephrine, 2 Chemicals In The Brain That Heighten The Sensitivity During Sex(Sex Is Known 2 Start In The Kitchen.....Home Cooked Meals Are Better Than Eating Out)